Sexless Marriage

I just received a comment from someone living in a sexless marriage and I have been reading some posts on another web site about people living in sexless marriages. It appears to me that there are quite a few people living in marriages where one partner is failing to meet the sexual needs of their partner. I suspect there are many people living in a sexless marriage or something that feels close to a sexless marriage.

As I look around at the social standards in the United States and even Western Europe, it appears that there has been a movement away from sex and sexuality. I watched a movie made in the 1970s and everyone was wearing short shorts. Today, the popular fashion style is for long shorts. Even nudity and sex in movies is taboo today, unless it is gay or lesbian sex. Sex is no longer talked about positively between a man and a woman. It is no longer accepted for a woman to dress sexy and a man to admire her. A healthy view of sex and sexuality has been removed from fashion, television and movies.

I believe there are many people that need some degree of sexual stimulation to feel sexy. When you remove the healthy sexual images from fashion, television and movies then one of the consequences is that it also is removed from marriages. The stimulation and the ideas are not readily available to the people who need them the most...the result is a lack of sexual desire.

People appear afraid to talk about sex. Men are afraid to look at women, because if a man looks at a woman he will be viewed as a horrible man, a pervert or jerk. Women are afraid to dress sexy for men, because they will be called a slut or whore. Even the beauty pagents that once celebrated a woman's beauty has now been turned into something far more complicated. Beautiful women competing in pagents are now afraid to wear a conservative bikini on stage to show off their beauty. If the most beautiful women are afraid to wear a bikini, then how are normal everyday wives supposed to feel?

I think our society is afraid of sex. We are afriad to show off our bodies and afraid to look. We are afraid to admit that we want to see women in bikinis at beauty pagents. We are afraid of a "wardrobe malfunction" so now everyone dresses so conversevative that there are no more positive role models to present the positive side of sexuality. It is a sad day in history as we abandon our sexuality and then wonder why we have sexless marriages.