Freedom of Marriage

According to the Christian Bible, before a couple is married they should limit their sexual activities. Life before marriage is confined, limited, restricted, and there are many sexual prohibitions for the single person. Then when a Christian couple marries they are set free, liberated to engage in sexual activities. The Bible actually gives greater sexual freedom to a married husband and wife than to anyone else.

I find it ironic that we appear to have reversed God's intent for marriage. Today, people view marriage as restrictive, limiting, and giving up freedom. Some people view it as the "ball and chain" or a symbol of imprisonment. I find it discouraging that Christian couples have willingly given up their freedom and portrayed Christian marriage as a set of rules, rather than the freedom that God intended. Somehow, the Church has painted marriage as something much less than what God intended. It is sad that the world is enjoying more sexual freedom than Christians, when it probably should be the other way around.

When will Christians exercise the freedom and demonstrate that God intended marriage to be the ultimate pleasurable experience. It was God that created us naked, and God that told Adam and Eve to be fruitful and multiple. He also said the marriage bed was undefiled.

Observations from the mall: woman in a short skirt

Today, while walking through the mall I noticed a woman wearing a very short skirt. Actually, quite a few people noticed this woman's skirt and several women made comments. Some said, "oh my, I can't believe she is wearing that." People would turn to their friend or partner and say, "did you see that?"

I was amazed by the reaction of the women. The men just stared in shock and kept mostly quiet, but the women talked about it while they walked. I noticed the majority of women smiled and did not appear to be offended by it. I really did not hear any negative or derogatory comments. Instead, the remarks appeared to be more amazement, shock, or curiosity based.

I'm sure some of the women were thinking that they would not wear something that short in public. I'm sure some may have been offended. But it appeared that most were somewhat amused by the event, and some appeared to be a little jealous of the attention. I was amazed that the women appeared to be more interested and looked longer than the men.

The woman wearing the skirt appeared very confident and comfortable. Her husband walked proudly beside her and I noticed him checking out his wife a few times. He did not appear to mind that everyone else was checking her out. They appeared very happy together, almost as if the two of them were the only people in the mall...unaware of the people around them. They enjoyed each other's presence, and smiled at each other.

As I watched this couple, I wished that my wife and I were that brave and confident. I wondered what it would be like to do something that crazy. As I looked around at the other shoppers, I suspect that many of them had similar feelings and thoughts.

Destructive nature of the Church's silence on sex

I am writing this blog because I am frustrated with the silence of ministers, pastors, and bible teachers in the area of sex. Many religious leaders ignore or skip over passages in the bible that deal with sex. Even the good expository teachers who believe in a literal interpretation of the bible often choose to take an allegorical or metaphorical approach to passages that reference sex. When was the last time that you heard a minister, pastor, or bible teacher give a literal interpretation of the passages in Song of Songs (Solomon)?

A couple of days ago, I was listening to a respected religious leader on a national Christian radio broadcast. He quoted almost all of Proverbs 5:19 but he deliberately left out a key part of the verse that instructs a husband to be satisfied with his wife’s breasts at all times. It appears that he was uncomfortable teaching the full truth of the verse, or perhaps he felt that it was inappropriate to say the word “breast” on a national Christian radio program. Whatever the excuse, it appears that many religious leaders would prefer to remain silent on what the bible truly teaches about sex.

God was not silent on the manner, so why should our religious leaders choose to be silent. Our media and society is more than willing to teach their views on sex, while our religious leaders sit quietly on the sidelines. When we are silent, we send a message to our young people and to our society that we do not know the answer, that we do not have anything of value to share, that we do not care about the topic. The silence from our religious leaders has resulted in many believers, Christians, and religious followers not knowing what the bible really says about sex. It allows the destructive behavior and beliefs taught by certain sects of society to be the only answer and the only source of information.

To make things worse, when most of the religious leaders to choose to speak up, they often condemn sexual activities. The result is that the masses of people are left with the opinion that the bible, church, and God teach that sex is bad, or forbidden. The negative messages or bad information that spews from the mouths of many religious leaders is a good topic for my next post.

The truth is that the bible has a lot to say about sex. There are some passages that would make most people blush if they were translated properly into modern language and terms. The bible is so explicit in some areas that a movie or play based on the literal passages would be rated for mature audiences…and would not be suitable for television broadcast.

Are we over sexed? Or under sexed?

Many people in the American society claim that we over-sexed. The media reports on the sex in movies, sex on television, sex on video games, and sexual lyrics in music. Religious and conservative groups complain about the brief exposure of a woman's breast that happened several years ago. Depending on who you listen to, it would appear that our American society is a highly sexual society.

However, based on my observations and interactions, it appears that many people are looking for sex and wanting more. I don't hear the average person saying, "no thank you, I've had enough sex...I'm sexually fulfilled." Instead, I see a lot of people searching the Internet and trying to get more sex.

After carefully studying the bible, I found two passages that lead me to believe that perhaps the problem is that couples are not getting enough sex. In First Corinthians 7:2-5, the bible instructs a husband and wife to freely give their bodies to each other on a regular basis and not to defraud each other. In other words, have sex on a daily or consistent basis. And in Proverbs 5:19 the bible says that a husband should always be satisfied with his wife's breast, which also implies that a wife should always be trying to satisfy her husband with her breasts. It doesn't say 3 times a week, it says always.

Maybe the reason so many people are searching for sex in all the wrong places is because they are not getting enough sex in the right place. Maybe the problem with our society is not that we are getting too much sex, but rather that we are not getting enough sex?

Hello World

Hello world and welcome to my first blog about sex and marriage. I'm sure there are many blogs on the topics of sex and marriage, but I hope to provide some insightful and innovative thoughts on the topic. Perhaps the ideas will help some individuals learn about themselves, their partners, and our social influences.

The Marriage Information blog is a new source for information on marriage and sex. I welcome your comments and participation.