Protecting Your Head (Right to Lead)

    I was listening to a popular christian radio program promoting family values and I was disgusted by what I heard. Some women guests talked about the need for men to step up and lead, which on the surface sounds good. But as I listened to the tone and examined their words closer, it was clear that these women thought more highly of women than men. They respected what women were doing in the families and felt that the women needed help from their husbands. The problem according to them is that men are not being the spiritual leader that they need to be. Why is the problem always with the man?
   It is time for men to speak up and to block the attacks to our headship. For decades the media has been portraying men as weak, lazy, and the target of demeaning jokes. And now the attacks are coming from christian media as men are portrayed as the source of the problem. What if the problem is not with a lack of leadership, rather the problem is a lack of respect for authority? Lack of submission?
    As I look at the families around me, I see an overwhelming lack of respect for authority and the headship of man. I see a lot of strong women who are in control and unwilling to give it up. I don't see a society of submissive women, not even in the church.  How can a man lead his family when his authority and headship is attacked, when his wife refuses to submit to him?  At church, in my car listening to christian radio, at the movie theater, on TV, and everywhere I go I hear attacks on men...not respectful words. I agree that men need to step up and lead, but men need supportive and submissive wives. As soon as a man stands up to lead he gets attacked. He is judged and his right to lead and his choice of direction is questioned.
   We all need to stand together and start protecting the heads of families. Wives need to protect their husband's authority and respect him no matter what he does. We need to stop speaking negatively and blaming men (authority) for the problems in families. We need submissive and respectful women to step up and do their part in families. Maybe more men would lead if the women would give up control. Maybe there are more men leading than there are women willing to follow. If we want men to lead and be the head of the family, then we need to protect our head.

Courageous Husbands

   I just watched the movie Courageous. The movie did a great job promoting the importance of Fatherhood. It takes courage to be a man, especially in a society that promotes feminists ideals and gender neutrality. What are we teaching our boys and young men about manhood?
    If you want to be a courageous father, then I believe that you must be a courageous husband. Your son is watching your relationship with your wife. If you allow your wife to "wear the pants" in the family and to control the family, then what is that teaching your son? I see a lot of people blaming men for not  being the leader in the family and sometimes talking about how women "have" to lead. Do women ever "have" to lead...is that what the bible teaches?
    I think part of the problem in our homes today is that our wives have decided that they are equal in authority or using older language they have usurped the authority of men. When a wife decides that she needs to perform the role of a man, because she doesn't think you are, then what is she teaching your son about manhood? Too many women manipulate their husbands rather than supporting them. And too many men are afraid to confront their wife and to deal with the lack of submission. Husbands have been bullied into submission, into a passive role, and then blamed for not being active as a father.
    If you are going to take an active role as a father, then you will need courage to play an active role in your family. Courage to stand up to your wife when she puts you down or when she challenges your authority by questioning you. You will need courage to do the right thing when your wife doesn't support you. If you are going to teach your son how to be a man, then you need to "man up" to your wife...be a  courageous husband that is not afraid of his wife.